Expanded Orgasm by Patricia Taylor Ph.D

Author:Patricia Taylor, Ph.D.
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.
Published: 2013-08-25T16:00:00+00:00

The Art of Peaking

Peaking is the art of delivering deliberately timed breaks, or pauses, to the flow of sensation from giver to receiver. The key word here is deliberate. Peaking is a double-edged sword. Done correctly, it produces a smooth ascent to ecstasy. Incorrect peaking is an airplane with a stuttering engine that rises a bit, falls back, up, down, and never achieves much altitude.

As mentioned earlier, the mind gets easily tired of unending repetition. See for yourself. Tap on a hard surface without stopping. After a few moments, your mind will wander. Now tap, but on every fifth beat, pause instead, and then resume. The timing of the pause should be no longer than a half second, about the length of the beats. Now you have a rhythm going, and the mind can get absorbed in that. After doing this rhythm for a while, shift to yet another rhythm, this one perhaps changing after every three beats. The ear is pleased to hear the well-timed rhythm.

This same principle operates in giving a woman rhythmic pleasure. Her body will open to flow, and flow in unison, with a well-timed and rhythmic series of strokes. Rhythm is the beat of life; it’s in heartbeats, rocking chairs, garden strolls, love songs, and a great massage. A good rhythm lulls us into the relaxation we seek to create in our expanded orgasm experience.

In another experiment, begin to tap randomly. One, three, two, ten, short pause, nine, two, two, long pause, seven. If your taps sounded anything like mine, they were actually irritating to listen to. Instead of surrendering deeper into relaxation, I went more into a state of anxiety. I had been fairly peaceful before I tapped. And now? “Stop that random tapping!” my body commanded.

Rhythm, then, is what defines good peaking. Randomness is what creates bad peaking.

Intentional peaking might go something like this: Stroking your partner, start by feeling your own rhythm of relaxation. Transmit this to her. When you have stroked her clitoris enough to feel her current, begin to hold back one stroke for every eight or ten. Do not make the pause longer than one stroke’s duration. Now, for the next four or five sets of strokes, repeat this pattern: eight strokes and then pause one. Eight strokes and then pause one.

Your intuition will tell you when she is climbing nicely as a result of your peaking. When you feel it is time to shorten the spaces between pauses, do so. Drop down to six strokes and a pause. Continue this pattern for as long as your intuition gives you the green light. At some point, as her energy intensifies, your intuition will direct you to decrease the number of strokes in a set.

Pauses are just one type of intentional peak. Stopping to get more lubricant is a longer type of peak. Changing the direction or pressure or tempo of a stroke from one type to another constitutes a peak. Unintentional peaks are unplanned pauses. When your mind wanders and your rhythm changes, you’ve delivered an unintentional peak.

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